This has left these once loyal kinky members to seek refuge on Fetlife. Not that Fetlife wasn’t already a hot bed for predators and fake Doms as it was, but it seems that number have grown rapidly in the past few months. This concerns me greatly because most newbies like myself are easy prey. All that separates me from someone fresh off the vanilla boat is that the mistakes they’re probably More about the author about to make… I’ve already made.

For those of you who don’t know Fetlife is a social media platform for people who are in the BDSM and fetish community. This platform creates a safe place for everyone in the community to openly express themselves. I joined Fetlife in shortly after also joining a BDSM and Fetish group on Facebook. Since joining Fetlife, I have met so many great people who have shared so much knowledge with me about their kinks, where certain kinks come from, their personal experiences with BDSM, and I’ve even learned quit a lot about my own kinks as well. So… what’s the problem with Fetlife and newbies?

Fetlife is tricky to navigate. There is no guide to where to go, the kind of people to avoid, reasons you should be cautious when using Fetlife, phrases or words you should watch out for when talking to Doms, etc. Though there is a Newbie forum that all new members to the site are urged to follow if they are new to BDSM and Fetlife, it is not mandatory. It takes the person themselves to put forth the effort and want to read through the forum, ask questions, and be open to guidance and learning first. Читать далее →