Very rarely do I advocate quick breakups, as I believe many relationships often just need a little tweaking, but you don’t want to be with someone like this. If you really care for this girl, I suggest telling her (in a nice way) that how she is behaving says that she’s insecure about the situation. You can ask her why that is. If she does not behave rationally, and she continues to behave this way, cut it off. Entirely.

Don’t set a completely unreasonable precedent if you want this relationship to end up healthy

You don’t have to be ugly about it all, but you also can’t let another person control your friendships, hours and communications, which is what someone like this will likely want eventually. Unbridled insecurities like these only grow with time.

Considering you’ve been in this relationship for four years (how have you survived, if it’s been like this?), you may wish to seek counseling with her, rather than just washing your hands of the relationship. That should probably be the stipulation. If you want to work this out, and if she does as well, I think counseling should be the way. She obviously has some deep set insecurities if she’s going crazy over your hanging out with another girl, when you’ve been dedicated to her for four years. posted by metalheart at 4:53 PM on [3 favorites]

It sounds like she has some pretty serious issues surrounding either trust or control, as people have said here, and spiderskull is right about it being something she needs to work out herself if you’re going to move forward in your relationship

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